ASK YOURSELF?

In order to unlock your full potential and achieve your greatest dreams, you need to take a step back and examine the kind of life you are living. In this article we will look at some questions which will urge you to think what's with your life and impel you to ask questions to yourself.

1. WHERE DO I WANT TO  BE IN THE NEXT ONE, FIVE OR TEN YEARS?

Well its impossible to predict where your life will head after one, five or ten years down the line, it is important to have  a plan of where you want to be in that time. Asking yourself this question allows you to set goals and appropriate plan about what you want to achieve in your life.

Without any goals in your life you'll most probably be like a ship drifted in a ocean with out having a destination. Any direction seems like a right destination.The problem is, when you sail without a destination, and being tossed by the waves in the ocean you end up in a rocky island being bankrupt, loosing everything.

Having clear and focused mindset towards your goal allows you to concentrate on your plan and stay focused on what you really want to accomplish in your life.

Actually setting goals and having a purpose in your life will help you achieve your desired goals. According to this study https://sidsavara.com/why-3-of-harvard-mbas-make-ten-times-as-much-as-the-other-97-combined/ those who set goals are twice more likely to succeed than those without goals, and those with written goals and plans are 10 times more likely to succeed than those  who don't have goals.

Ask this question to yourself so that you go with the flow and stay focused on your goals and accomplish them in future.

2. WHERE WILL MY LIFE BE IN ONE, FIVE OR TEN YEARS IF I CONTINUE DOING WHAT I AM DOING TODAY?

Fortunately, most of have visions of where our life will head and where we will be in future whether that is the next one year , 5 year or next 10 year.

Even if you don't have one,hopefully the first question would where you want your life to be in future. Unfortunately, many of us are doing things which will not even take us closer to our goals which we desire to be in future.

Remember! Remember! Remember! 

Your future depends on the things you do today.You cannot live your dream life in future if you spend doing average things today!

If your dream is to be a builder and stay fit within one year, then you can't get their eating junk food all the way along and avoiding healthy food.

Asking yourself this question helps you identify the things you are doing today and wasting time on unnecessary things.It helps you identify the things you gotta do in order to achieve your future goals.

3. DO I WORRY TOO MUCH ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK?

 

Human beings are social creatures, and the need to be accepted by others is a normal part of being human. This explains why each of us feels the need to act according to societal expectations.

However, sometimes this need to get accepted by others can become so great to the extent that it starts affecting our lives.

Worrying too much about what others will think about you, your behavior, your decisions and so on and trying to do what everyone expects of you can hinder your ability to think for yourself and make your own decisions. Instead of making your decisions based on what you want for yourself, your decisions will be based on what you think others consider to be right.

Unfortunately, you can never truly predict what others will think of you, and therefore trying to please others is an exercise in futility. It is better to do make your own decisions without concerning yourself with what others will think of you.

Asking yourself this question will help you determine if you are doing things because you think they are the right thing to do or because you are afraid of being judged. 

4. DO I CARE MORE ABOUT HOW MY LIFE LOOKS OR HOW IT FEELS?

Today’s society is fueled by marketing and extreme consumerism. In a world where first impressions matter a lot, people see the car you drive or the clothes you wear and not your character or integrity.

Having the right image determines the kind of friends you will get, the relationships will get into and the kind of jobs and business deals you will get. Matters have been made worse by social media, where people are all about showing off how their lives seemingly are. This has led to a situation where most people are more focused on living a life that looks good, even if all this is a façade.

Today, keeping up with the Joneses has become a way of life. People are taking loans to buy houses and cars with the aim of looking successful.

According to a survey by the Country Financial Security Index, more than half of the respondents spend more than their income occasionally, while 21% spend more in a month than they earn in the same month for more than sixth months every year. Most of this expenditure goes towards buying material things with the aim of impressing others.

While doing this might boost your image, it will have adverse effects on your life. Spending beyond your means to impress the masses can lead to a life of debt.

Apart from setting you up for a life debt, living a life where you care more about how your life looks can lead to lack of joy and contentment. Instead of being appreciative of what you have, you will be more focused on getting more so that you can improve your image.

Since you are so focused on getting bigger toys to maintain your image, you end up spending most of your time at work, which in turn also strains your relationships with family. You end up becoming distant to your spouse and miss seeing your kids growing up. Is this the kind of life you want?

Asking yourself if you care more about how your life looks or how it feels will help remind you that living a fake life to impress others is a walk down a treacherous path. It’s better to be rich and look poor than to look rich and be poor.

5. WHAT WILL BE MY BIGGEST REGRET IF I WERE TO DIE TOMORROW?

If you know you are going to die tomorrow, you most probably won’t care about where you lived, how much money you made or how many properties you had. Most likely, you will regret working so hard while neglecting your family.

You will regret letting fear hold your life back. You will regret living the life others expected of you instead of charting your own path. You will regret not going after your dreams. Asking yourself this question gives you a sober reminder of what you should be doing with your life today.

If you know the things you are going to regret when you are lying on your deathbed, why not do them today to avoid going out with regrets when the time comes?

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